Hi, I’m Leah: Your Trauma-Informed Relationship & Empowerment Coach
I’m Leah Aguirre, LCSW —a relationship coach, author, and Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with over a decade of experience in trauma-focused and attachment-focused care. While my clinical background is rooted in therapy, my current work focuses on coaching individuals who are ready to break free from self-abandonment, reconnect to their authentic self, build up their self-worth and finally get out of toxic dating and relationship patterns—for good!
Before I became a coach, I spent years as a therapist supporting clients in processing and clearing unhealed trauma stemming from emotional abuse, childhood trauma and other attachment wounds.
Today, I bring that same depth and insight into coaching—offering a supportive, no-BS, trauma-informed space for individuals who want to stop repeating the same patterns and find healthy love.
My mission is to help you stop settling, start healing, and step into the kind of love and life you truly deserve—without compromising who you are.
I’ve Dated From Anxiety, Scarcity, and Self-Doubt—and it doesn’t work.
In my mid-twenties, dating felt like a full-time job. I treated it like a numbers game—endlessly swiping, double-booking dates, and obsessing about finding the one. I was dating without intention, often choosing people who weren’t aligned with my values or what I truly wanted. I wasn’t looking for genuine connection—I was seeking validation.
I thought dating meant performance. If I could just be “better”—cooler, more desirable, less me—then maybe I’d finally be chosen. So I shape-shifted, ignored red flags, and silenced my needs, believing that being wanted would make me worthy. But instead of feeling empowered, I felt anxious, desperate, and exhausted.
Here’s the good news: through my own healing, therapy, and nervous system work, I began to rebuild a relationship with myself. I learned how to stop chasing validation and start honoring my own values and voice. I learned how to date with intention, how to be present, and how to show up as my full, authentic self—not a curated version built for someone else’s approval.
It didn’t happen overnight—but it changed everything.
And that’s what I want for you, too.
Ready to change how you date—and how you feel about yourself while doing it?
The Relationship That Tried to Break Me—But It Didn’t
By my early 30s, I had done a lot of work—I processed unhealed trauma, rebuilt my sense of self-worth, and learned how to assert myself and set limits with others.
I had accomplished personal and professional goals that once felt out of reach. For the first time in my adult life, I felt genuinely comfortable in my own skin. I was grounded, confident, and clear on what I deserved in a relationship.
And then—I met someone who seemed to align with all of it.
What unfolded wasn’t part of an old pattern. It was something I never saw coming.
The relationship turned out to be emotionally abusive—coercive, controlling, and completely destabilizing. It pulled me back into a place I’d worked so hard to leave behind. I began questioning my intuition, my reality, and even my worth.
The shame was deep—not just for being in the relationship, but for not seeing it sooner. I thought I had already healed. I thought I should’ve known better.
But here’s what I’ve learned:
Healing doesn’t guarantee you’ll never get hurt again—but it does guarantee that you’ll find your way back to yourself faster.
That relationship didn’t break me—it revealed where I still needed to reclaim my voice. And in doing so, it helped me build an even deeper connection with myself and my purpose.
Today, I coach from that place—not from perfection, but from lived truth. From a place of knowing what it feels like to lose yourself… and what it takes to come back home.
If you’re ready to rebuild after emotional abuse, you don’t have to do it alone.
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I Found Healthy Love without losing myself—it is possible!
Healing has changed not only how I love, but how I allow myself to be loved.
After rebuilding my relationship with myself, I stopped settling for potential or just good enough. I stopped abandoning my needs to seem “easygoing” or to avoid conflict. And in doing so, I opened the door to something my 20-something-year-old self had thought was impossible:
A relationship that is safe, respectful, loving, playful, and honest.
Not perfect. Not performative. But healthy and deeply fulfilling.
Because healthy love isn’t about proving your worth, earning affection, or shrinking to meet someone else’s unrealistic expectations.
It’s about being fully seen—and still held. It’s about showing up as your authentic self and being met there.
Today, I live what I teach. I’ve found a relationship that aligns with my values, honors my boundaries, and supports my continued growth.
And that’s what I want for every woman I work with.
You don’t have to settle. You don’t have to become someone else to be loved. You get to have a relationship that’s healthy, human, and imperfectly perfect for you.
What I Believe—And How I Coach
You don’t need to be “fixed” or “easy going” to find healthy love.
You need to come home to yourself—and to fully embrace yourself.
My trauma-informed coaching approach helps you:
Heal from emotionally abusive and controlling relationships
Stop repeating toxic dating patterns rooted in low self-worth
Reconnect to your values, voice, and intuition
Date with clarity, intention, and strong boundaries
Build a secure relationship with yourself—and call in one with a partner
This is deep work—but it’s also incredibly empowering. It’s the kind of transformation that ripples out into every part of your life.
Who I Work With
I coach self-aware, growth-oriented individuals who are:
Tired of dating emotionally unavailable or avoidant partners
Healing from coercive, controlling and emotionally abusive relationships
Struggling with anxiety, people-pleasing, or have low self-worth in relationships
Ready to stop settling and start dating with self-trust and high standards
Whether you're fresh out of a breakup or stuck in a cycle of dating—I’ll meet you where you are and help you reconnect with your power.
Why Work with me:
I offer a unique blend of clinical insight and lived experience, with over 12 years of expertise in trauma-informed mental health care.
My work is rooted in a deep understanding of attachment wounds, relational trauma, and nervous system healing. I don’t just teach self-worth—I help you feel it in your body, trust it in your choices, and live it in your relationships.
I provide one-of-a-kind, highly personalized empowerment coaching designed for high-achieving, self-aware individuals who are ready for real change—not surface-level fixes.
Together, we’ll move you from stuck to self-trusting. From anxious and overanalyzing to grounded and clear. You’ll stop dating from your wounds—and start living from your worth.
Because I believe that the goal isn’t just love but your wholeness.
And when you get to that place? Everything changes.